Mine is not a drug user or an alcholic, hes just a sociopath. He will use anyone and anything to get what he wants. What is the worst part is he usually gets it.
He only hangs out with rich people who give him things or is a use to him in some way. One time one of his friends company went under and he and his family fell on hard times. At this point my father totally cut him off. What made it bad was that I was friends with the 2 sons of this guy and would hang out with them alot. After my father stopped hanging around them they would always ask me how he was doing and to give them a call. It would place me ina weird spot because I knew my father no longer had an interest in their family anymore. A friend is always there and my father is not that type of person.
Also dont disagree with the man on anything. If he knew you didnt agree with him on something he will have his argument planned out. Like to a scary level. He practices his arguments with people to himself. I have seen him do it. He will argue as himself and then he will pretend to be you. He will bring up the points you will bring up so that he can plan on how to counter them. I seen him do this in front of the mirror and in his car all by himself.
Back when I was just a dumb highschooler who didnt know anything about cars, I relied on my father for information. He gave me some bad advice one time and it cost me in repairs. He told me to take my car to his friend who owned a few shops. I trusted him and his friend and I was stupid to do so. They told me the car was done. That its not worth the money to fix. So I sold the car to his friend as a parts car. A few years later I got word that his friend fixed the car and resold it. My father knew about this the whole time and used this to pay off a debt to the guy at the cost of my car.
After that I went and bought another car. To go pick up this car my father gave me and my GF who was living with me at the time a ride to pick it up. As I bought the car and left my GF in the car with my dad all he did was talk shit on me. Saying "IDK why Dion is buying this car for that much. Its a good car but hes over paying. You know how much I got this truck for (he was talking about the truck he was driving us in)? 3k, thats it. Now hes buying that car for 4k. Who seems to have got the better deal lol". Who talks shit about their own son to his son's GF?
Then there was the time he won this Citizenship Award. Its an award thats given out to people around the state for doing great things for their communities. See he coaches a little league football team and hes the president of it. Has done this for years. Ill give him credit. It really is a good thing. Hes done some great work and has helped alot of kids. I used to coach for them aswell but I had to leave because I could no longer coach with him. When someone wins this award they are put on the local news and get interviews. Everyone who is part of these teams were interviewed to talk about him. The News people wanted to interview me but I declined. I said "Its his day, I should not be in front of the camera. Give him some screen time.". This made my father upset. He didnt like anyone not going on TV to sing his praises. Every coach who didnt give and interview were told "well that was weird of you all to not want to go on TV. I find that strange?". He was clearly upset at us who didnt.
The show is all about him. The by-laws for the teams used to be that a president can't stay as the president but for so long. He had the rules changed to where he can hold the position for as long as he likes unless hes voted out. People have risen up to try and become the president. Many claimed that money has vanished that should be there. When this happens the voting is a mockery. People show up to vote that never attend any of the meeting before and vote in favor of my father. Like I said, I coached with him for years so I know that these people only came to vote. They never take any interest in the teams unless its time for a president vote.
Since I have left he has wanted me to come back and coach with him. I turn him down everytime and he flys off the handle. He cant take being told no. He says he wants to pass the organization off to me one day. To me this is weird as fuck. Its a community little league football team. Its not some company that you can just pass off to your kids. You are voted in and out. He view this as his. Something he owns and can do with as he pleases.
The weird thing is this, HE'S NEVER PLAYED TEAM FOOTBALL A DAY IN HIS LIFE. Not even little league. His knowledge of football is lacking. Like really lacking. He does not even know the complete WR route tree. Now if you dont know football this may not sound like a big deal to you but this is 101 level stuff here. Whenever we get a coach who actually know the game, he does his best to run the coach off. He cant stand having a person around who knows more about the game then he does. We once had this coach who used to be the kicking coach for the Giants back in the day. He used to help put our HS from time to time and he just wanted to help us aswell. Does my dad accept his help? No, his reason is "We dont coach our kids like that. We dont bring in outside coaching for help. We keep it in house.". Im like WTF? This is an NFL level coach here.
I used to get into argueing matches with him all the time because he just does not know his shit. I just could not stand it. I had to walk away because he would not let me actually teach the kids how to play the correct way.