Beta tries to justify being a wuss cuz feminism

Holy fuck this dudes a bitch... His wife sleeps around and he plays Mr. Mom and he tries to justify it by saying "I'm a feminist." No you're not dude, you're the king of betas. He tries to convince the reader that he's cool.with the open marriage and then goes on to admit that he's scared she'll fall in love everytime she goes on a 'date'. I guarantee this open marriage is a one way deal...

The funniest part is the comment section. There's hundreds of comments telling him he's a bitch, and a huge chunk are from women. Seriously, I don't think there's a single positive comment in the whole section. Guarantee this dude suicides himself before the year is out...

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https://www.yahoo.com/style/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism-124776149073.html

As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist.

Before my wife started sleeping with other men, I certainly considered myself a feminist, but I really only understood it in the abstract. When I quit working to stay at home with the kids, I began to understand it on a whole new level. I am an economically dependent househusband coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing. Now that I understand the reality of that situation, I don’t blame women for demanding more for themselves than the life of the housewife.

Still, as a man, I could, if I wanted to, portray what I’m doing as “work,” and thus claim for myself the prestige men traditionally derive from “work.” Whenever I tell someone I stay home with the kids, they invariably say, “Hardest work in the world.” They say this because the only way to account for a man at home with the kids is to say what he’s doing is hard work. But there’s a subtext in the compliment that makes it backhanded: We both know no one ever says it to a woman. Mothers care; fathers provide care. The difference is crucial. Despite my total withdrawal from the economy and the traditional sources of masculine identity, I can still argue I am a provider. I provide care.

In this way, my masculine self-image was stretched but not broken. Diaper bag notwithstanding, I was still a Man. It wasn’t until my wife mentioned one evening that she’d kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife fucked only me.

When people ask how it started, I say this: We married young. She’d had sex before me, but only with a handful of people a handful of times. She never had a boyfriend, never had a lover. I was the first man she ever had the chance to get to know intimately. By her mid-30s, having already had our children and entering her sexual prime, she felt keenly her lack of sexual experience. Happily for me, she was willing to talk about it, willing to ask if I’d be open to exploring other options. We opened a bottle of wine and started talking, and talking, and talking.

She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control. We aren’t afraid of their intellect or their spirit or their ability to bear children. We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won’t choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she’s a whore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she’s boring and lame; if she doesn’t like sex at all, she’s frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap.

Feminism always comes back to sex, even when we’re talking about everything else. The point isn’t that all women should be sexual adventurers. Celibacy is as valid an expression of sexuality as profligacy. The point is that it should be women who choose, not men — even the men they’re married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months — many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine — before I knew it, too.

When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist.

That was two years ago, and today we’ve never been happier, more in tune, closer, tighter, stronger. Whatever power I surrendered, I don’t miss. I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone, but I tell everyone it works for us.

How does it work? We take turns going out. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home. (We don’t like to use babysitters because it gives us a curfew; we’d rather go out unfettered than worry about turning into a pumpkin at midnight.) Going out alone to hooking up with others was an easy transition. It does work both ways and, yes, I too enjoy sexual carte blanche. I just don’t use mine as much as my wife uses hers. What’s important is equality of opportunity, not outcome.

How does it feel? It feels great … mostly. Most of the time, it feels like a mature, responsible way to address our needs and desires within our loving, mutually supportive marriage. It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talking we do. I meet a lot of people who say they’ll never get married because they don’t want to get divorced, and hearing it always makes me sad, because they are cutting themselves off from the possibility of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People don’t divorce because they can’t stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel like they can’t share enough. I never forget that my wife is a whole person unto herself, a complete and dynamic individual, and though we are together, we’re not one. Too often people get trapped in the roles of husband and wife, and a gulf opens between what they think they should be and who they really are. Opening our marriage has allowed us to close that gap so that the person I call “wife” is the same person my wife sees in the

I think he's confusing cuckold with feminist .

https://www.yahoo.com/style/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism-124776149073.html

Lol, dude is trolling Phone Post 3.0

Already been posted. Phone Post 3.0

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bonersaurus - Lol, dude is trolling Phone Post 3.0


They put articles like this in the post a lot, nd when you link to another article you realize it was all one big ad for Ashley Madison, or a site owned by them.



Kind of weird that newspapers sell editorial space for it.

Ok. That makes more sense. I assumed it was one of those situations where the author worked backwards from "need to create an attention whoring headline" and invented the fake story from there. Still strange though. Phone Post 3.0

"Guarantee this dude suicides himself before the year is out..."


Probably for the best. Phone Post 3.0

Information - Guys I think there are rules against harassing your fellow OGers. HereWeAre has received enough abuse for this and continuing to harp on it serves no purpose.
I'm confused.

Are you trying to tell me that HereWeAre is a dude? Or are you telling me that the subject of the OP's article is a lesbian? Phone Post 3.0

I couldn't even make it through the whole story. . . .I was to ashamed this kind of man even exist.

I feel like I need to do extra manly things today to re-align the man Karma in the world and cancel out this ultra beta. Phone Post 3.0

Paulo Filho?

He needs to turn his panis in and learn how to flick his bean. Phone Post 3.0

While not my cup of tea, it's not even sad to me that his wife gets side dick regularly. Some guys are genuinely into that. It's sad that he is justifying it to himself the way he is. If you need to be argued into a fetish over long conversations with alcohol, that doesn't sound a real fetish. The concept of patriarchy that he mentions, where the males maintain control over the reproductive rights of women, does actually occur, both as a societal phenomenon as well as in some individual cases. But calling a monogamous relationship a patriarchal construct is conflating the two ideas, since people in a monogamous relationship, as a default, expect and assume exclusive mating rights to propagate their genetic material, which has always been morally completely acceptable. Phone Post 3.0

I think you guys underestimate just how many betas there are out there.

When I used to go to swinger parties there were dudes I would never imagine there that just want to sit there and watch their wife get banged. One time in particular sticks out.


There was this couple that would come in but I never saw them actually play. The wife was drop dead gorgeous a 10 on any scale. The husband was like 6'3, in great shape, handsome as shit. He looked like a real alpha type.

One night I see them go into a room and I think this is my chance to get a piece of her. I walk in and his wife is getting double penetrated by two black guys, with another in her mouth and one in each hand. While her husband is holding is dick and hysterical crying. Phone Post 3.0

Lol as soon as I saw thread title I knew it was this article.

If you read the comments on the article, people point out that the writer may not actually exist and this may be some sort of social experiment to provoke and measure reaction. Phone Post 3.0

stevezur -


I think he's confusing cuckold with feminist .



https://www.yahoo.com/style/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism-124776149073.html

Exactly.

Cuckold, not feminist. Phone Post 3.0

Someonestolemysocks - I think you guys underestimate just how many betas there are out there.

When I used to go to swinger parties there were dudes I would never imagine there that just want to sit there and watch their wife get banged. One time in particular sticks out.


There was this couple that would come in but I never saw them actually play. The wife was drop dead gorgeous a 10 on any scale. The husband was like 6'3, in great shape, handsome as shit. He looked like a real alpha type.

One night I see them go into a room and I think this is my chance to get a piece of her. I walk in and his wife is getting double penetrated by two black guys, with another in her mouth and one in each hand. While her husband is holding is dick and hysterical crying. Phone Post 3.0

So, 5 black guys total? Or just the two that were Dp'ing her? This information is very important.

Someonestolemysocks - I think you guys underestimate just how many betas there are out there.

When I used to go to swinger parties there were dudes I would never imagine there that just want to sit there and watch their wife get banged. One time in particular sticks out.


There was this couple that would come in but I never saw them actually play. The wife was drop dead gorgeous a 10 on any scale. The husband was like 6'3, in great shape, handsome as shit. He looked like a real alpha type.

One night I see them go into a room and I think this is my chance to get a piece of her. I walk in and his wife is getting double penetrated by two black guys, with another in her mouth and one in each hand. While her husband is holding is dick and hysterical crying. Phone Post 3.0

^lol

did you ride back home on the back of your dragon?

gregbrady -
Someonestolemysocks - I think you guys underestimate just how many betas there are out there.

When I used to go to swinger parties there were dudes I would never imagine there that just want to sit there and watch their wife get banged. One time in particular sticks out.


There was this couple that would come in but I never saw them actually play. The wife was drop dead gorgeous a 10 on any scale. The husband was like 6'3, in great shape, handsome as shit. He looked like a real alpha type.

One night I see them go into a room and I think this is my chance to get a piece of her. I walk in and his wife is getting double penetrated by two black guys, with another in her mouth and one in each hand. While her husband is holding is dick and hysterical crying. Phone Post 3.0

^lol

did you ride back home on the back of your dragon?
Nope I rode your mom Phone Post 3.0

"Loretta Lynn". Phone Post 3.0

Someonestolemysocks - I think you guys underestimate just how many betas there are out there.

When I used to go to swinger parties there were dudes I would never imagine there that just want to sit there and watch their wife get banged. One time in particular sticks out.


There was this couple that would come in but I never saw them actually play. The wife was drop dead gorgeous a 10 on any scale. The husband was like 6'3, in great shape, handsome as shit. He looked like a real alpha type.

One night I see them go into a room and I think this is my chance to get a piece of her. I walk in and his wife is getting double penetrated by two black guys, with another in her mouth and one in each hand. While her husband is holding is dick and hysterical crying. Phone Post 3.0

The fuck? He was crying? Why go if you where gonna cry? Id gladly bang some dudes wife but Inwould be weird if he was crying

What's his girls name I want ins! Phone Post 3.0