When you were snooping through your dads phone, did you read any sexting or see dick pics your dad took?
If you feel the need to address this, do so with your dad but be prepared, you might not like what he has to say.
Have you ever talked to him about it before 
Sorry to hear, but being an old guy myself I think you need to side step and see your parents as an adult couple just like any other.
We don't want to think about our parents that way but they are like the rest of us. Just older. And our parents.
If the two of yu have that kind of relationship you might want to talk with the guy about it. If not, let them do their own adult stuff their own way.
I'm definitely going to address him about it. For everything my mom does for him... it just pisses me off.
TheBearStare -Luncha Libre -
Why isnt your mom fucking him if she knows he will just cheat?
I put 100% of the blame on her.
i know this is likely a joke response but ive always hated this logic when people spout it. yeah there are circumstances where its a loveless marriage/relationship and the husband(or wife) screws around because they arent getting it at home. reality is though there's a shitload of reasons why people cheat. sometimes its even emotional(men included.)
theres plenty of people getting action at home and they still seek it out somewhere else. man or woman its irrelevant.
i was sorta joking but if his mom is super religious she probably stopped slinging leg a while back while the old man still wanted to keep going.
Hell OP e might be making a move on your girl next.
Muppetmower88 -Test For Echo -
How did you find out or is this about the phone call 6 years ago? did you catch him recently?
We were driving up to camp the other week and he asked me to message his friend on his phone and then I saw a message from "Kim" saying "Goodnight sweetie, dream about us tonight!!"
Should've brought it up right then.
OP, at least wait until you get your Christmas presents. Start shit now and your folks may decide to take your presents back to WalMart and keep the money.
OblongBox -
OP, at least wait until you get your Christmas presents. Start shit now and your folks may decide to take your presents back to WalMart and keep the money.
well, he knows what his old man wants for christmas
KIM'S POOOOOOOOOSAYYYYYYY!
Honestly, why do you care if he's getting a little side pussy? What do you want him to do, leave your mom? He's a grown man, your mom doesn't own his dick, and he can stick it where he wants.
WelterweightBatman - Have you ever talked to him about it before
When my sister called me crying about the phone call 6 years ago, I called my brother, we met up drove to the house together and stormed in ready to kick his ass... he was behind the coach yelling that it was all bullshit...
He denied all accusations for weeks and weeks. But once my Mom seemed ok... and I know she cried almost every night. We as a family just kinda put it in the back of our minds and forgot about it. Because we all thought it was a one time thing.
Pops just needs a talking to. I went through the same shit with my dad. I just told him he needs to stop putting my mother through so much bullshit and heartache or I was going to put my foot in his ass. He was same way with me when I was a kid, so he knew I was serious. My parents have been together for 37 years and since I had that talk with my dad he's quite drinking, he's taking better care of himself and he doesn't talk down to my mother like he used to in the past.
My approach was simple but effective. It's how he would approach me when I was a kid so he couldn't do anything but respect where I was coming from. I have no problem smacking my old man around if it will make my mother feel better. I love my dad and he knows it, but I hate to see my mom hurt. 
You should go back in his phone and see if you can score some pics of Kim's tiddies.
Luncha Libre -TheBearStare -Luncha Libre -
Why isnt your mom fucking him if she knows he will just cheat?
I put 100% of the blame on her.
i know this is likely a joke response but ive always hated this logic when people spout it. yeah there are circumstances where its a loveless marriage/relationship and the husband(or wife) screws around because they arent getting it at home. reality is though there's a shitload of reasons why people cheat. sometimes its even emotional(men included.)
theres plenty of people getting action at home and they still seek it out somewhere else. man or woman its irrelevant.
i was sorta joking but if his mom is super religious she probably stopped slinging leg a while back while the old man still wanted to keep going.
Hell OP e might be making a move on your girl next.
The two of you kind of sums it up for me.
You never know what goes on in a relationship. If it's your own parents you know jack shit about their sex life (hopefully).
That's why I'm saying let adult couples do their thing, even if it is your parents.
Ghost Of Don Logan -Muppetmower88 -Test For Echo -
How did you find out or is this about the phone call 6 years ago? did you catch him recently?
We were driving up to camp the other week and he asked me to message his friend on his phone and then I saw a message from "Kim" saying "Goodnight sweetie, dream about us tonight!!"
Should've brought it up right then.
True.
Damaynevent - Pops just needs a talking to. I went through the same shit with my dad. I just told him he needs to stop putting my mother through so much bullshit and heartache or I was going to put my foot in his ass. He was same way with me when I was a kid, so he knew I was serious. My parents have been together for 37 years and since I had that talk with my dad he's quite drinking, he's taking better care of himself and he doesn't talk down to my mother like he used to in the past.
My approach was simple but effective. It's how he would approach me when I was a kid so he couldn't do anything but respect where I was coming from. I have no problem smacking my old man around if it will make my mother feel better. I love my dad and he knows it, but I hate to see my mom hurt.
I just have to wait for another opportune moment to bring it up, most likely next weekend.
Just wanted to see if anyone else went through this kinda thing before.
Just tell jim the truth. You think its fucked that he still cheats and affects how you see him as a man, and your relationship.
It's always difficult to see a father who conceived a kid later in life try and and connect with the kid. Your Dad had you at 34 or so?
You're 26. Things are still pretty black and white with you and how you see the world even if you don't think it is.
At 60 life is all about shades of grey and nothing is cut and dried. You don't see the world in black and whites.
Like you said, you wanted to bust in and kick his ass when you first found out. Why? Because in black and white terms it's wrong and there should be consequences.
However, if you were in your late 30s or 40s, you'd view it differently.
I'd talk with him but be aware that you have no power to force change and you may have to accept that.
Also...pics of your Mom please.
Z NEDCMK1 -
Storming in to kick your dad's ass is the wrong reaction and way to deal with it, especially if he was a great father to you as you said he was. He easily could have had the same reaction to you as a kid and beat the piss out of you when you pissed him off, but he didn't.
You should talk to him in a non confrontational way so no one gets defensive, especially considering your last approach.
He may be cheating on your mom, but you don't know his side of the story so you should show him enough respect to give him the opportunity to tell you before you react emotionally.
Keep in mind..... you aren't entitled to the information.
I was 19 at the time... I'll approach it much differently.
BubblesNS - Just tell jim the truth. You think its fucked that he still cheats and affects how you see him as a man, and your relationship.
Exactly what I want to tell him.
Muppetmower88 - This has probably been going on for far too long then I care to think about and possibly with multiple women over the past decade... About 6 years ago my Mother received a phone call from a woman who confessed of having an affair with my Father. My Mom being the devout Born Again Christian she is lives with the heartbreak that my Father cheated on her but forgave him. Partially I think because she didn't want to tear the family apart and she really doesn't have any one to turn to even if she wanted to divorce him. They are both now 60 years old. He is a great Father but a terrible fucking husband - just doesn't give her the love and support she deserves and we can all see it and have been witnessing it for a long time.Same. My poor Mother is a saint. My Dad is a cool guy, but not the best husband ever .
I've been dealing with this knowledge for a long time and just want to get it off my chest.
Just need some advice on what to do from the OG...