“Happy wife happy life” Fuck that bullshit. Buy yourself a reasonable house in the $150k range before you get married and stay there. You meet a woman who doesnt like your house and wants to live in a $350k house, don’t marry her ass or if she wants to move later on, tell her “NO.”
Stop pissing your money away on $35k+ vehicles on $400+/mo payments. You realistically should be buying $10k used vehicles and paying cash for them. If you are a capable man you should have basic tools to be able to fix your car. If you don’t have tools or are not mechanically capable, keep $1500/yr in an envelope in your safe to pay a professional mechanic for any issues that arise. You meet a woman that insists on driving a $35k+ vehicle, DON’T MARRY HER ASS! If your wife insists on driving a new $35k+ vehicle and wants you to pay $400+/month for it, tell her “NO.”
Wife: I want this new $35k+ vehicle. The payments are only $450/month, it’s a really good deal!
You: No, I just found this nice gently used vehicle that I am comfortable paying cash for. I have a garage full of tools to fix it whenever the need arises. If I can’t fix it, I have the cash on hand to pay my local mechanic to fix it for me.