Fear of Failure

I had a session with a specialist to uncover why I always seemingly stop to follow through with a project or always seem to self-sabotage.

Long story short, it became apparent that it was a fear of failure and the fear of disappointing my parents. So the way that my subconscious was supporting me was to stop me from attempting anything that had a possibility of failure.

Did anyone else have this problem?

I used to have that problem. Now I do all the things I fear in life. Imagine what you could do, if you weren't afraid. Phone Post 3.0

Its human nature driven by laziness. Put down he pipe, drink, game controller, remote, or what ever the distraction is and prepare for what ever you want to succeed at. There is no substitution for preparation.

Ask yourself this, have you ever failed at something you put 100% into to prepare for? Phone Post 3.0

I often have a fear of failure but







Ah fuck this Phone Post 3.0

It just took one session to get the diagnosis?

What kind of specialist? Phone Post 3.0

CountMarkula - I used to have that problem. Now I do all the things I fear in life. Imagine what you could do, if you weren't afraid. Phone Post 3.0

Agreed, thanks for the input.

myersei - Its human nature driven by laziness. Put down he pipe, drink, game controller, remote, or what ever the distraction is and prepare for what ever you want to succeed at. There is no substitution for preparation.

Ask yourself this, have you ever failed at something you put 100% into to prepare for? Phone Post 3.0

That was the problem. I couldn't put 100% into whatever project I was starting because I was afraid of failing.

Now I understand the problem, I'm going to fix it and do what you say, which is prepare to succeed.

No such thing as failure. You either achieve or are in the process of achieving. You only fail when you give up. Unless your goal is to give up, then you achieved that too Phone Post 3.0

Yeah dude I feel Ya on that one Phone Post 3.0

Honest question- did/do you play sports? Trane?



It might change your understanding of "fail"


Are you still standing? You haven't lost bro, you just haven't won. Yet.
As long as you're in the fight, as long as you stand back up, you aren't a loser. Phone Post 3.0

jkd_guy - It just took one session to get the diagnosis?

What kind of specialist? Phone Post 3.0

He was neuro-linguistic specialist. Involved visualization and a lot of introspective questions. I'm guessing my diagnosis is pretty common.

MountainMedic - Honest question- did/do you play sports? Trane?



It might change your understanding of "fail"


Are you still standing? You haven't lost bro, you just haven't won. Yet.
As long as you're in the fight, as long as you stand back up, you aren't a loser. Phone Post 3.0

Thanks, I competed in jujitsu and kickboxing. Like other things, I didn't really give my best effort, because I was afraid of failure so I was setting myself up to fail.

AnotherTMAguy -
myersei - Its human nature driven by laziness. Put down he pipe, drink, game controller, remote, or what ever the distraction is and prepare for what ever you want to succeed at. There is no substitution for preparation.

Ask yourself this, have you ever failed at something you put 100% into to prepare for? Phone Post 3.0

That was the problem. I couldn't put 100% into whatever project I was starting because I was afraid of failing.

Now I understand the problem, I'm going to fix it and do what you say, which is prepare to succeed.
Not sure if thats sarcasm or not but either way, good luck. Phone Post 3.0