At what age and under what circumstances did you how that realisation of "I HAVE GOT to get my shit together!"?
How old were you when you woke up to the fact that you had to get a move on with life?
What made you have these thoughts?
What was the outcome?
I've had a pretty rocky road over the last 10 years, but I did well in the end, but getting to mid 30's now and it's crazy to see how many people my age and older are just fucking around and have ZERO prospects.
Each to their own, but it's a pretty scary to think that people you know at this age haven't made that switch (and now won't).
Get it all in a bag... 
I invest for retirement but am aware that life as a senior isn't fun for most so I struggle with this balance constantly. Better to plan for old age but enjoy the now.
Not easy, usually people can only afford to do one really well.
Take your pick 
I USUALLY JUST SCOOP IT OFF YOUR WHORE MOTHERS TITS.
BIGWHITESEXY - I USUALLY JUST SCOOP IT OFF YOUR WHORE MOTHERS TITS.
I hope your Mom dies in a fire (only after she's had a threesome with me and her Mom, obviously).
JakeThaGr8 - Just turned 29. Started the process of getting my shit together.
Fucked myself real good the last decade
What made you come to this realisation?
Having a kid=time to get your shit together. Until then, fuck it, nothing really matters.
sadic1 - Having a kid=time to get your shit together. Until then, fuck it, nothing really matters.
Get your shit together BEFORE you decide to have a kid, right?
WordUp -BIGWHITESEXY - I USUALLY JUST SCOOP IT OFF YOUR WHORE MOTHERS TITS.
I hope your Mom dies in a fire (only after she's had a threesome with me and her Mom, obviously).
JESUS MAN...WHY ARE YOU SO MEAN TO MY MOM........WTF DID I EVER DO TO YOU?
I never fucked up BIG,but I've had my share of dumb shit. I hung around with less than desireAble people in high schools. I would get Into fights, and would occasionally do graffiti. I knew that I always wanted to do right, but I just did that shit throughout highschool.. I decided to act better the moment I graduated highschool, got a job, and went to college. I'm glad to say I never fucked my record up, aside from a school yard fight.
Looking back at some of the dumb shit I did, I wish I would have played a sport in highschool. I could have been much more. Still young, so I plan to do right from here on out.
Jack Carter -sadic1 - Having a kid=time to get your shit together. Until then, fuck it, nothing really matters.
Get your shit together BEFORE you decide to have a kid, right?
Theoretically, one would always have their shit together, but for me, no, I didn't even remotely have my shit together prior to having a kid. That was the signal for me that I better start thinking about it.
I'm going to live vicariously through you Jake.
Don't let me down! This is my only chance at making it!
Life is about recognizing when the bell is ringing and answering the bell. if you don't hear the bell, don't worry about it. If yuou hear the bell, answer it. Do what needs to be done and what you feel called to do.
- I stopped the bleeding 6 years ago when I turned 27.
Owed 90,000 in loans. Medical bills that had gone to collections and other collections stemming from family issues. I wanted to get engaged and had to take a cold hard look at myself. I'm still digging out.
I never really didn't have my shit together. As in, I never let my life get too out of hand. I got pretty good grades in high school because it was easy and stayed out of too much trouble because I had pretty good friends and played sports.
I went to college and although I definitely could have done better and gotten more out of it learning and experience wise, I made it through so I can't really say I fucked up too badly at that point.
Kind of stumbled through some random jobs after that and ended up in a pretty stable job.
I got my health and fitness a bit more dialed in the last 3 or so years, but I never let myself get too out of shape since I was 16 to be honest. I always kept myself at least decently fit and kept active even when I was really busy.
So I guess getting my shit together isn't a very good way to describe me just slowly filtering out some random dumb shit and people I had going on at certain points. I think its more accurate to just say I matured and figured out what's important to me more than fixed some huge gaping hole in my current life.
I'm lucky I had great parents and people to not let me make devastating mistakes when I could have.
My dad's friend offered me a job. He sits me down and says now if you take this job your not just responsible for yourself but my name as well. If you can't handle that tell me right now. Job was the best pay a 20 year kid could get. I was making almost 40k with benefits.
Why did he offer me that job? Because I was going no where. Later on that same guy screwed me and we had a falling out but I feel in a way I still owe him. Had I not gotten that job I would have never started my business. Which has become pretty successful.
I've tried to pay it back in other ways. I have taken in friends which always turned out badly. I've given other oppertunities that they might not have gotten otherwise. I truly believe everyone deserves a true second chance.
David@accu -You're a good man. How old are you?
My dad's friend offered me a job. He sits me down and says now if you take this job your not just responsible for yourself but my name as well. If you can't handle that tell me right now. Job was the best pay a 20 year kid could get. I was making almost 40k with benefits.
Why did he offer me that job? Because I was going no where. Later on that same guy screwed me and we had a falling out but I feel in a way I still owe him. Had I not gotten that job I would have never started my business. Which has become pretty successful.
I've tried to pay it back in other ways. I have taken in friends which always turned out badly. I've given other oppertunities that they might not have gotten otherwise. I truly believe everyone deserves a true second chance.
JakeThaGr8 -Hang in there. You and I are in similar situations. I never took high school to serious and that part I regret deeply but I'm living not surviving. Recently had an amazing opportunity unfold in front of me and I took it. The job is difficult but it opens many doors that are just too good to give up. Unlike you my personal vice isn't alcohol, mine is self destruction but on another level (not drugs). For the most part my life is all together except I don't live on my own yet. I had a bit of a set back but I'm working really hard to move forward. Also unlike you I don't have many girls around me. The one girl I did date, who broke my heart, didn't have her shit together but if she would have stuck around I would have helped her get through school because I cares that much. Keep on fighting man and it's going to be rough.WordUp -I turn 30 in 10 monthsJakeThaGr8 - Just turned 29. Started the process of getting my shit together.
Fucked myself real good the last decade
What made you come to this realisation?
I think when you hit that age and you see your peers or those younger than you have a house, nice car, married with a family, etc. It makes you think
I've lost two girl friends who both were wife material and they got fed up with my shit and my irresponsibility.
It hit me when I found myself sitting in a shared apartment, heart broken, no drivers license or car, repeating alcoholic behavior, depressed/anxious, still working toward your undergrad degree, etc.
Only an idiot would continue these patterns. I keep attracting beautiful, well educated women despite these facts, I'm a successful personal trainer who's clients love working with me, and I'm passionate about my education/career.
The foundation is there to have an amazing life. I just need to be consistent in making investments in my life. I don't want to be 40 years old, alone, and living pay check to pay check.
Time flies pretty quick. I'm better than what my past has been.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Maybe think about putting the bottle down and seek some help. I ended up seeing someone and by far the best advice I've ever gotten, modified my behavior, grew up some more even though I'm still in a very dark place. Cheers dude.
David@accu -
My dad's friend offered me a job. He sits me down and says now if you take this job your not just responsible for yourself but my name as well. If you can't handle that tell me right now. Job was the best pay a 20 year kid could get. I was making almost 40k with benefits.
Why did he offer me that job? Because I was going no where. Later on that same guy screwed me and we had a falling out but I feel in a way I still owe him. Had I not gotten that job I would have never started my business. Which has become pretty successful.
I've tried to pay it back in other ways. I have taken in friends which always turned out badly. I've given other oppertunities that they might not have gotten otherwise. I truly believe everyone deserves a true second chance.
Fair play, but taking friends on never works out.
It can only work out If your buddy is a workhorse and is happy with what you pay him, otherwise it ends in tears.
26 and still workin on it