Had a realization today. I’ve been kicking around this idea for a little while. It’s not easy but I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m an asshole.
I tend to point out inconsistencies, hypocrisies or inaccuracies where I see them, especially when someone is a self-righteous prick. The shit ppl whisper to their friends about another in secret, I generally say (not aggressively) to their face. I’m not particularly proud of this. I have an autistic, OCD-like need to do so. It’s more like an extreme confusion and a burning desire to clear up the perceived dissonance immediately. For example…
I have a friend who is particularly unreliable; almost aggressively flakey. He was bitching about another friend having no character and I couldn’t help it. I immediately saw red and brought up a baker’s dozen examples of where he didn’t do what he said he would.
Please allow me this one indulgence. I’ve had a couple drinks tonight. Eat my dick. In any case, any other assholes here?
You are an asshole. But sometimes that’s the exact response necessary. As long as you can reign it in around grandma and your boss, I wouldn’t sweat it. I’m often an intentional asshole too and I don’t.
I don’t feel like you’re an asshole. I’d rather have someone tell me the truth than lie to me trying not to hurt my feelings.
I hate it when my family members have not listened to a word of the advice I’ve given them over and over again. Then come and ask me for money, and when I point out that they never listened to anything I’ve ever told them so no I’m not giving them any money, they call me an asshole? I’m pissed off that I wasted my time even giving them advice.
I’m the same OP. Or used to be the same at least. It annoys me when I know somebody is obviously not saying the truth and would confront people immediately.
I think most of it stemmed from wanting others to understand and realize what is happening too. Then one day I realized that others understand everything too, they just choose not to say it, so I don’t need to say or point out anything, the others know already.
It still annoys me, but I realize that we live in the world of perception rather than cold hard truth.