MTH - You're being a bit vague here, and it's making me have a hard time deciding whether to empathize with you or declare you a big cry baby.
I agree there's no place for "gym bullies." However, it is a combat sport. Training in any aspect of MMA involves some direct competitive struggle and aggression. That overwhelms some folks, even when you're properly courteous and sportsmanlike about it.
So far, I know you went to this gym once, was somehow "bullied" in a way that you're unsure anyone even knows about, told no one and haven't explained to us, and you intend never to return.
You may be totally right about being bullied, but your solution (tell no one and never return) seems needlessly meek. Or maybe not . . . I just can't tell given the absence of facts.
I'm not really asking for help so you call be a cry baby if you want, maybe I am.
I'm more concerned about the image the gym could have in my community about MMA.
I'm not calling you a cry baby and have no desire to do so. I'm just saying I can't tell. You could be utterly justified, perhaps you endured more than anyone ever should . . . but I can't form an opinion one way or the other because I'm lacking real facts.
This goes to your main concern as well. If you're being a "cry baby" and whining about "bullying" that was really nothing or a total misunderstanding, then I would expect the culture of gym would have no negative impact on the image of MMA in your community. On the other hand, if the bullying was obvious, clear, inappropriate, wrong, and embedded in the culture of the gym, well, then your concerns about the impact the gym could have on the image of MMA in your community may be well grounded.
What happened?? Why do you think it happened? What, if anything, did you do to resolve it other than simply walking silently away? Have you spoken about it with anybody since?
The person used facebook to make sure everyone saw what he was saying, including the threats, on the actual gym page.
I'm not the only one it happened to.
It was all posted out in the open and the head coach defended his actions, this is mostly why I didn't want to get involved.
uberpinscher: I'm really not sure, It's really the only reason I can think of because I know nothing about that person, and he knows nothing about me.
I have no intention of fighting, never had any, I'm in this because I love the sport and the camaraderie.