I'm being forced to think about it. My wife has a surgery tomorrow. This is the second time she is having it. The first time, the surgeon gave her a 10% chance to live. She did, and has soldiered on 6 more years.
Unfortunately, everything doesn't always stay fixed. She is having the same surgery tomorrow. She is having her intestines cut and resected due to an inability to eat or drink meaningful quantities. The surgeon said her intestines have looped on themselves, and scar tissue is keeping them constricted.
So, anyway, we just had friends come over. The entire talk was about how I will manage if she doesn't make it tomorrow. WTF? Anyway, I don't know. I think I'll disappear to an island somewhere -- maybe sell stuff on the beach. I will just want to get away from this all. I love my wife more and more every day. So, the memories we've built may just be too much.
Anyway, I've got a lot on my mind, and am just wondering what you savages would do?
Let's hope you don't need to really have to worry about this for many many years to come. Good luck brother. She kicked add before, she can do it again!
Thanks, gents! She is going to kick ass, but our friends got me thinking... Let's be real, I've been thinking about it since I found out. It takes all the desire of career advancement, savings, home ownership, and makes it all irrelevant to me. I want to just drift away, and not have to talk about it with EVERYONE. It's already a struggle to talk about the situation with everyone. It becomes exhausting, and just makes me wish that there was a resolution. I guess It's the Final Countdown da da da daaaaaaa da da da da daaaaaa! Or, I spend the next few months watching her get weaker and weaker.
Anyway, that's not what I feel is going to happen, but just a thread of consciousness I've had to travel down.
We don't have kids, but I imagine that would be a great anchor to help get through this. Her family, that I'll love forever, has already been talking about me moving on to their ranch. I guess everybody is preparing for the worst. It sucks. She and I are being optimistic, but we don't see it from an outside perspective. This has been a weird situation.
id try to keep from drinking too much first of all. i hate to hear that man i with the best for you and your wife. i would be absolutely paralyzed if my best friend died
Hope everything goes well for your wife. If I lost mine, I would be devastated, but I'd have to soldier on for my boys. In a way, if I didn't have kids, I think it might be tougher for me. I'd probably be inclined to leave as much of my current life behind, much like you proposed.
Hoping you don't have to make that call, and that your wife pulls through.
I had a co-worker, young guy with a huge, saggy gut, get married and have kids. He was poor, so he and his wife delivered newspapers in the A.M., as well.
2 months ago they're in a horrible car accident. His wife dies. For the next month his Facebook posts were either sharing memories/pictures of his wife, or GoFundMe's for funeral expenses and tombstone expense.
Then, out of the blue, he starts posting pictures of him and another woman (who is always flicking the camera off), and before you know it the dude is in a relationship. Now, every post is some meme about love and how much he's in love with this woman. He's also posting text pictures that say shit like, "Never judge a woman for crying, you don't know what hell she has gone through."
I'm like, so confused by how much he's just switched from mourning husband to desperately in love lunatic.
Sincognito - I had a co-worker, young guy with a huge, saggy gut, get married and have kids. He was poor, so he and his wife delivered newspapers in the A.M., as well.
2 months ago they're in a horrible car accident. His wife dies. For the next month his Facebook posts were either sharing memories/pictures of his wife, or GoFundMe's for funeral expenses and tombstone expense.
Then, out of the blue, he starts posting pictures of him and another woman (who is always flicking the camera off), and before you know it the dude is in a relationship. Now, every post is some meme about love and how much he's in love with this woman. He's also posting text pictures that say shit like, "Never judge a woman for crying, you don't know what hell she has gone through."
I'm like, so confused by how much he's just switched from mourning husband to desperately in love lunatic.
When you're so broken that you barely are able to manage being alive, and then one day something gives you the reason to do that again, you'll understand.
Sincognito - I had a co-worker, young guy with a huge, saggy gut, get married and have kids. He was poor, so he and his wife delivered newspapers in the A.M., as well.
2 months ago they're in a horrible car accident. His wife dies. For the next month his Facebook posts were either sharing memories/pictures of his wife, or GoFundMe's for funeral expenses and tombstone expense.
Then, out of the blue, he starts posting pictures of him and another woman (who is always flicking the camera off), and before you know it the dude is in a relationship. Now, every post is some meme about love and how much he's in love with this woman. He's also posting text pictures that say shit like, "Never judge a woman for crying, you don't know what hell she has gone through."
I'm like, so confused by how much he's just switched from mourning husband to desperately in love lunatic.
When you're so broken that you barely are able to manage being alive, and then one day something gives you the reason to do that again, you'll understand.
How long did it take you before you started dating?