I agree but will offer this may have nothing to do with divorce and may be something completely different. Either way the issue is more likely to be discovered and be able to addressed with a professional third party.
Oh yeah I didn’t mean this was related to the divorce, I meant the divorce wires kids to act differently with their parents. Sometimes it breaks some of the paths of communication so a counselor might be able to give the root cause faster than a parent in a situation like this
Does he like sports? I was a mess as a kid until I found wrestling and then I had a reason to do better in school and to go everyday. It was the only thing that kept me going and out of trouble. I pulled similar shit before then. I cut class, got into fights, lied and started trouble everywhere I went. Then all of a sudden I had something I cared about and had to straighten up for. But before then I was headed for bad problems.
In any event keep your head up. You obviously care a lot about being a good parent and role model.
Oh yeah I didn’t mean this was related to the divorce, I meant the divorce wires kids to act differently with their parents. Sometimes it breaks some of the paths of communication so a counselor might be able to give the root cause faster than a parent in a situation like this
Came here to basically say this. I was (am?) all fucked up from divorce as a kid, shoulda been in counseling I suppose, haha. No joking matter though, my best friend at 18yrs old blew his head off with a shotgun because of divorce. All kids react differently to it.
I wasn’t disagreeing just offering different perspective. My problems growing up were ADD and a terrible fucking home life until my parents divorce and a worse time dealing with the aftermath. My mom kidnapped me and while it was probably best in the end that she did it was a shit show so I totally hear you. Counseling helped but wrestling helped
Way more to be honest.
Organized sports are a lifeline for kids on the edge. I grew up dirt poor in a school bus and was bullied relentlessly, and little league was the only time I felt accepted, wanted, or semi normal. Then I grew boobs and was never bullied again, but when I was younger baseball absolutely played a huge role in keeping me okay.
Made me feel like I was part of something bigger than my problems.
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A kid from Indiana liking basketball??? Never heard of that lol. My in-laws live cross from the gym they shot hoosiers in knights town
How old ? Graphic novels maybe ? Are there some lighter ones ?
Yeah don’t start Garth Ennis or Robert Kirkman. The kid will be fucked for life.
Honestly not that familiar with many other than sin City, 300, Walking dead etc… That’s why I wondered if there’s lighter ones ?
You better hope it’s not a sword fight.
I didn’t read until I was in grade five.
Truth be told they thought I was a little bit retarded until a teacher (Mr. Ceona) had me do some tests and it turned out I was lazy and had a learning hurdle when it came to putting together sentences.
It still hits me once in a while where everything on a page will get all jumbled. I’ll be reading just fine and all of a sudden my eyes read words at random spots on the page rather than left to right like they’re supposed to.
He found out I was into dragons and stuff so he handed me a choose your own adventure and told me to read it. I was hooked. He had a whole shelf of them and I could only get a new one when I told him about the adventure I’d done in the one before. It was great for me.
Mr. C would never let me say I was bad at reading. Only that I had to work on improving my reading. That’s a tool that I still use today in everything. I never let myself say I’m bad at doing something. I’ll always just say I could work on improving myself at it.
The same goes for my kids. I’ll never let them so “I’m bad at math” or whatever. It’s always “I need to work on getting better at math”.
Never say or let your kid say he’s “horrible at reading”. It lets them off the hook. Make sure he knows what he’s really good at and when it comes to his weaknesses make sure that he views them as works in progress.
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