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@MojoSoDope no way bro. Hes more of a sneak up behind and punch me in the back kind of kid.

He knows better than to attack my glorious jewels. You a queer.

Solid strategy.

It reinforces the fact that schoolwork is a priority. Not every kid is going to be an A student, but they have to put in the work to do the best they can.

My oldest is one of the smartest people i know (now in an extremely competitive engineering school) but he would regularly fuck up and blow off homework and assignments so he’d lose online time as a result.

OP, if you haven’t already done so you should IMMEDIATELY get the school involved and get your kid extra time/resources in the classroom. Where I live they call it an IEP or 504 program and it requires things like extra time to complete assignments, teacher assistant in the classroom, extra resources/instructions from the teachers, etc, etc.

Your kid legit has a brain issue, so make the school maximize the resources they provide.

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I got a conference scheduled with his school for noon today. I’m gonna wear my wolf shirt so they know I’m a no frills kind of man and I am not to be trifled with!

Poppa is charging the problem head on now!

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I hope you don’t get accused of looking like Jared Fogle, you may never get invited back.

But if I look like fogle then I’d also look like you. Trust me, you dont wanna look like me lol

Good for you. You care about your kid and are trying. That counts a lot. He will find something he can gravitate to in school. It is trail and error for kids. Just support him like you are doing and it will work out.

Sounds like me when i was a kid…Get him an audio book of something he’s interested in, that helped me, i haven’t read a book in years or ever lol but ive listend to a bunch of audio books that keep my interests

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Great attitude, seriously. Parenting, even when things are going well, can be difficult. No user guides, no repair manuals. You just have to learn to trust your best guess, educated or not, and see how it works. My kids, and all the mistakes I’ve made raising them, have taught me more about myself than I would care to admit and there’s plenty I would do differently, or did do differently with my 2nd vs. my 1st.

You’re a better man for all of it and it sounds to me like you’re a good father so just keep it up and trust that everything will work out as long as you keep caring and learning.

Thanks @Babies_Ate_My_Dingo .

I try hard but I am aware of my weaknesses too. I need to grt better at acting like a father. A lot of times I find myself acting like I’m his pal. Hes my only kid, and I’m crazy about him so I fall into that trap sometimes.

This is a real eye opener. I need to be better and balancing my act between being his dad and being his buddy.

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Have you considered getting him counseling? Sometimes the juniors need someone to talk things through with and a professional may have insight you don’t.

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Counseling is a good idea. Even when the parents are amicable, divorce is hard for kids

I agree but will offer this may have nothing to do with divorce and may be something completely different. Either way the issue is more likely to be discovered and be able to addressed with a professional third party.

Oh yeah I didn’t mean this was related to the divorce, I meant the divorce wires kids to act differently with their parents. Sometimes it breaks some of the paths of communication so a counselor might be able to give the root cause faster than a parent in a situation like this

Does he like sports? I was a mess as a kid until I found wrestling and then I had a reason to do better in school and to go everyday. It was the only thing that kept me going and out of trouble. I pulled similar shit before then. I cut class, got into fights, lied and started trouble everywhere I went. Then all of a sudden I had something I cared about and had to straighten up for. But before then I was headed for bad problems.

In any event keep your head up. You obviously care a lot about being a good parent and role model.

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Oh yeah I didn’t mean this was related to the divorce, I meant the divorce wires kids to act differently with their parents. Sometimes it breaks some of the paths of communication so a counselor might be able to give the root cause faster than a parent in a situation like this

Came here to basically say this. I was (am?) all fucked up from divorce as a kid, shoulda been in counseling I suppose, haha. No joking matter though, my best friend at 18yrs old blew his head off with a shotgun because of divorce. All kids react differently to it.

I wasn’t disagreeing just offering different perspective. My problems growing up were ADD and a terrible fucking home life until my parents divorce and a worse time dealing with the aftermath. My mom kidnapped me and while it was probably best in the end that she did it was a shit show so I totally hear you. Counseling helped but wrestling helped
Way more to be honest.

Organized sports are a lifeline for kids on the edge. I grew up dirt poor in a school bus and was bullied relentlessly, and little league was the only time I felt accepted, wanted, or semi normal. Then I grew boobs and was never bullied again, but when I was younger baseball absolutely played a huge role in keeping me okay.

Made me feel like I was part of something bigger than my problems.

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This isnt about the split. Her and I split up before he was even born. But I am a sexy beast so she couldn’t resist this pecker even though we weren’t a couple anymore. And a baby ended up in her belly because I am manly as fuck.

So us operating as a long distance team is all hes ever known. He doesn’t seem to have much problem with it .

He has been showing a interest in basketball and I love basketball. So I’m dreaming about him taking it up. Fingers croased!

A kid from Indiana liking basketball??? Never heard of that lol. My in-laws live cross from the gym they shot hoosiers in knights town