No FEAR or KNOW Fear ??
" When you practice something 'wrong'*
you get really really good at the 'wrong' thing.
The longer you practice failure,
the harder it becomes to recognize success"
As a coach and motivator of fighters & warriors, I'm often
fear and intimidation during training and competition. I tell
to forget about winning & losing and to just go for the
Capital: the 'wealth of experience'. Do it to build self net-
FORGET ABOUT WINNING?
Yes. Especially in training. Forget it for now [unless or until
you are at
an elite world-class competitive level, like a Tiger Woods or a
Shamrock where winning is the objective because all other
been met) Trying to win always, leads to failure.
HOW DOES ALL THIS APPLY TO THE LEO, SOLDIER OR
As a consultant I've watched people shoot, do simulations,
handcuff, take tests, lecture and so on and what I noticed
during a poor performance was that that person simply got in
the way of
'themselves'! It was 'performance anxiety' which is directly
self-coaching and fear management.
Knowing how to coach yourself through your unique
obstacles will make you
better, stronger, faster, meaner, sooner!
There are some fundamental components or ingredients that
are available to
'all' of us:
1. A goal
2. A plan
Inside those two simple components lays an infrastructure so
complex. The problem is that the process is so easy it
complicated. How simple is Nike's JUST DO IT slogan? But
how many talk and
how many have the next t-shirt that reads JUST DID IT!
Fear of fear is a trap. Fear management is a choice. The
good news is
the process can be changed but it requires awareness and
then, yes, irony
of irony: commitment. And that's reason most do not move
can't commit to commitment.
An analogy I have often used is that of a cooking metaphor:
ingredients are available to all, and recipes are available to
people still can't cook.
Why? The truth is, some people 'choose' not to cook. And
problem. How many people who are professional protectors
training, running, grappling, shooting beyond the dept.
We can rationalize that 'we' have enough kit to handle the
that apathy will ensure denial when you meet a threat that
about your kit. (Kit being a metaphor for you and your gear.)
reality, in my opinion is people don't push themselves
because of fear and
it matters little if its fear of competition, fear of losing, fear of
getting bruised*its all fear.
Whether it is conscious or unconscious, all success comes
appreciating and understanding the fundamental
component: the management
Respectfully speaking, there's been too much made of the
afflictions of fear and not enough into the psychological,
counts. When you feel fear, what will you do? In training or in
street*.the neat thing about fear management is that it's a
habit, not a
skill, for we are always confronted with some sort of fear, so
as my play
on words goes; its not about NO FEAR, but about KNOWING
FEAR: how to spot,
it, analyze it, address it, own it, use it and move through and
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No FEAR or KNOW Fear ??
THE DANGERS OF RATIONALIZING IT
If someone were to consistently demonstrate the 'practice'
then what he or she is getting good at is 'failure'. Whether it is
failure, as in falling on their face or failure to follow-through, it
still failure, because the original goals are never being met.
the explanation, typically, it will always comes down to fear:
something, whether its' winning, losing, power, and control,
It's all the same: fear of fear. Avoiding it, excusing it,
it will always leave a void in your heart or head [dooming you
that recurring 'if only I had' moment when you're sitting in the
proverbial rocking chair of life]. This behavior, if it becomes
So whether it's about being a good cop, soldier, pro fighter, a
and entrepreneur and so on, [the subject isn't important, the
creating a plan and a goal is the start, following through is
exercise. That's where the only important education lays, in
Then, once the goal has been met a new one must be set.
IF YOU KNOW YOU SHOULD BE DOING SOMETHING
MORE*.THEN CHANCES ARE YOU ALSO
'NEED' TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Don't get all pumped up and haphazardly run to the range,
the ring, the
street. The secret is not some Kamikaze approach of diving
in screaming NO
FEAR!! [Though that sometimes can workJ] the real secret is
contemplative, it's about diving in smiling, thinking KNOW
FEAR. I must
'know fear' in order to evolve.
So one of the secrets to success is in organizing your goals
so that they can be met realistically. Strategy related to self-
must be done in stages. If you've never run a day in your life,
enter a marathon to get started. Chances are you'll quit or not
up on the day of the race. When we do this sort of thing too
(hesitate, quit, rationalize) it is both habit forming & noxious.
talk, you start to walk, and you stop. Repeat]. The real danger
two-fold. The practice of non-commitment is emotionally
lethal. It'll kill
your confidence and it can destroy the confidence of your
peer group. And
depending on the scope or frequency of this behavior it can
relationships because it destroys trust.
Understand your essence. Humans are living organisms and
we are meant to
grow. Life presents us with obstacles to test our intuitive
of this truth, to help us discover who we are and what we
value and what
we want to be. When we shirk those responsibilities we
personal growth. This is a universal truth. We must 'commit' to
But it is a person's inability to commit that undermines their
Remember, life presents us all with confrontations,
sometimes on a daily
basis. How we handle those confrontations determines the
quality of our
day, but ultimately, it determines the quality of our lives!
not about the winning or the losing, it's about getting in there
a participant in life.
Aside from the daily bonus of confronting and managing
the serendipity of 'managing ones fear' is that it always leads
to a NEW
you; it's a pathway to your evolution. Confronting fear
empowers and is
the catalyst to 'self-actualization'.
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Here's a short map of my journey through fear and what it
has brought me:
When I started teaching self-defense in 1979 I knew
something was missing,
something in me. I decided it was an irrational fear. It was in
understand fear that I was compelled to try and understand &
fear. That led me to design a drill to help attack the fear.
spawned the original PANIC ATTACK system (force-on-force
1982). Then it was in trying to explain fear to my students and
differentiate from the biological sensations and the
ruminations that I was forced to define a recipe and that
CEREBRAL SELF-DEFENSE: Mental Edge program and the
BE YOUR OWN BODYGUARD
program. While trying to understand my fear during contact
drills and more dynamic PANIC ATTACK sessions I noticed
reliability and suddenness of the startle/flinch response and
birth to the entire SPEAR SYSTEM. And, in support of all
I realized that there was no training gear that allowed 'us' to
simulate realistically, at real speeds, in real environments
levels of fear for the danger*.to address that, I designed
Because of my commitment to the management of fear, all
important discoveries were made. Managing fear defines
you. Managing fear
helps elevate & empower you.
It took me 20 years of teaching & training to be able to write
article*it'll only take you 10 minutes to read it. You may live
to be 100
but if you fear fear, your 'evolutionary' life might be over now!
know fear and live your life and learn its secrets.
Let me leave you with these immortal words from a warrior
unbeknownst to him at the time, was offering penetrating
insights into the
psychology and remedy for fear. For my friends and
colleagues in the LEO
and soldier world, these are words to live by:
"Learn it right and you will do it right the rest of your life, learn
wrong and you'll spend the rest of your life trying to get it
in battle, you meatheads that get it wrong, the rest of your life
-Sergeant Steve Prazenka- (Bloody Bucket Division W.W.II)
Copyright Tony Blauer 2000 * 2002
For more information on our research into performance,
mind-set and fear,
visit our website http://www.tonyblauer.com/ we have audios,
videos on various subjects. Professional train the trainer
Very well stated.
If their is common one truth in all belief systems, religions, myths and metaphors, one absolute in the human "condition", it is struggle.
How you choose to address it or ignore it makes you what and who you are and creates your realm of influence in life. It becomes your character and contribution to family, tribe, society and world culture.
The function of fear is to make you functional within, throughout and beyond it.
Thanks for the read and most importantly, your experiences.
Thanks Luis, appreciate it...I'll be in your neck of the woods in
December, if you have a LEO mail list please let them know
about my short 2-day class in Jupiter, see THREAD: LAW
ENFOR. Seminar Florida.
ANd call me when ISR is ready for HIGH GEAR! :-) GOod
luck with the new program.
Between the two of you (Tony & Luis), I am truly blessed with the finest coaching, training & inspiration available. Very nice read Tony.