Top 5 Most Common Deathbed Regrets

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9049120/Losing-touch-with-friends-most-common-deathbed-regret.html

 

Losing touch with friends most common deathbed regret

A former nurse who looked after dying patients has listed the five most common death-bed regrets.

 

It is the simple things in life, like staying in touch with friends and being true to yourself which people regret.

And for men, working too much is something they wish they hadn't done.

Bronnie Ware, who worked in palliative care in Australia, cared for the dying in their homes in the last three to 12 weeks of life for several years.

Inspired by what she discovered, she has written a book. She said: "My patients were those who had gone home to die and some incredibly special times were shared.

"People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality and some changes were phenomenal.

"Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.

"Every single patient found their peace before they departed though.

"When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again."

Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.

"Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

"Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

 

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship.

"Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners.

"All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

 

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.

"As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.

"Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

 

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.

"Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years.

"There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.

"Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

 

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.

"The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives.

"Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

 
  1. Never received his penis pump and died with a tiny peen.

7. I wish I wouldn't have banged those three hookers in Sierra Leone. 

 

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Came to say this.

those things are easy to say when you are dying but when you are younger andd going through the grind, you cant turn down mandatory overtime...your house needs remodeling and wifey wants to go on vacation, gotta work to earn that money...

life is hectic, its hard to keep in contact with old friends..

choosing to be happy is quite difficult for the vast majority of people..im not so sure i even agree with this one tbh..