All I've ever worked with are male athletes and fighters, ages 16-30ish. But now I've got a lot of the typical overweight, middle age, sedentary for the last 20 years women at work wanting me to help them with diet/exercise programs, but I'm not real good about motivating them. For example, "It's your ass" and "tough shit" are two of my most used phrases when guys say though don't feel like training or like/dislike a certain food that they shouldn't/should be eating, but that isn't really appropriate for these women.
I'm a nice guy in general, but I'm not good at babying people who don't want to work hard. Any tips? Thanks.
I coach a developer at work who is out of shape but he's a mate so I find it okay to motivate him. He had the mental strength of a KIT KAT before he started to train with me. The other week I got him to back squat 56kg x 12reps x 3sets :D deep!
He is feeling a lot better.
But with the Oly guys at the club I am of the 'negative reinforcement' type of coaching. I basically slam them down about their sh!t technique and lifts LOL. But only because I know they are keen and it brings out the best of them :)
We even give odds of each other making the lift LOL
Koing
Try to focus and encouraging them when they do good. When they slack use those times of them doing good as examples of how they can do better. Most people will begin to get motivated once they see and feel change.
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mate i work in a commercial gym in sydney australia and assist my head coach teaching bjj and kickboxing at his mma gym on the other side of town.
at the commercial gym i work at my 'regular' clients are my bread and butter.
they come from all walks of life and to be honest i can relate to most of them better than i can a lot of the guys at our mma gym. talking mma 24/7 can be a little boring so its good to mix things up with people who have no idea what mma is.
my client base is predominantly middle aged 40 somethings who work in the corporate sector. most are CEO's of big businesses who have completely lost touch with how to use their bodies. my job is to help them get back into shape and this is something that they really appreciate as the whole aspect of strength and conditioning is something i am extremely passionate about.
most have interesting lives and have plenty of stories to tell.
they are cashed up, so i can relate to them beautifully : )
I have gone back and forth for my entire career. I have trained some pro athletes and a lot of regular folks. I don't have any trouble with the transition. I do however prefer working with athletes. I find that for the most part their goals are much more highly defined and they are willing to work hard to achieve them.
I often find your average person can get a bit wishy-washy.
TAKU T.N.T.
Think about the money they are paying you!
Thanks for the tips guys.
I'm working with a girl right now who'll be a good transition for me. She was an athlete in college so she has the willingness to train hard, but at the same time she's a 135 pound girl so she can't do the tire flips and all that kind of stuff, so I'm finding some good substitute exercises and saying things like "I know you're tired, but you can do this" rather than "I know you're tired, but fuckin do it anyway" haha
CC but now the important question - did you hit it?
I've been killin it bro. She's my on again, off again long distance girlfriend, in town for a couple weeks lol
^^^ Then it would seem weird to have to be nice to her and not tell her to "fucking do it anyway".
Just remember that they do have their own goals. Even if they are not clearly defined, there is a reason they are paying you. No matter how miniscule you might feel their goal is, it could be extremely important to them, and really they are putting you on a pedestal in a sense to help them achieve it.