It’s snowing and I’m sitting in a McDonald’s parking lot. My other uncles and my mom went to get something to eat and I didn’t really wanna go. He had lung cancer a few years ago and it was treated but last week found out he had advanced colon cancer and there was nothing they could do. They put him in home hospice on Monday. He is not responsive and probably will not live through the night.
I was close with him up until the last couple years. When I went through my divorce I wasn’t in touch with my uncles as much as I used to be and we drifted apart. I wasn’t there for him while he was sick. I regret not spending more time with him, and there is no more time to spend now.
Not sure why I’m posting other than I hope I can pass this on. Spend time with people that you love. Don’t let other things get in the way. It doesn’t take long to make a simple phone call. None of the stuff that I felt I was busy doing was more important than that.
Sorry to hear, man. My uncle died from lung cancer (he was a heavy chain smoker) in the summer of 2016. I didn’t always get along with him, but he wasn’t all bad. He allowed me to drive his Mercedes-Benz and gave me an expensive 24k gold chain with a matching crucifix.
You just have to remember the good times you had with your uncles and aunts.
They always know. I lost contact with a very close uncle growing up, for many years, we are talking about 20 years. My sister, who lived close to him said he still carried a pick of him and I hunting in his wallet. I called him and he and I had a great chat, even though he had some major health problems. I told him I felt bad for not calling him in so long, and he told me no sweat, that he cherished the time we had spent together…
So sorry brother, do not worry about what “could have” or what you think you “should have” done. You guys have a bond that you know and no matter what you have done, in this moment, wouldn’t seem enough. You’re here now and that is what matters. No need to beat yourself up, life will do that for you. Best wished friend, we are here for you.