I am very sorry to read that OP.
My two brothers and I all graduated from UC schools, but I honestly think going to college today is almost like women going to a “Finishing School” in the mid-1960s.
Back then, people lacked the perspective to realize that society had fundamentally changed and the idea of women going to a Finishing School was antiquated. I think in a handful of years it will be abundantly clear to most people that traditional colleges are very much “over” and have outlived their usefulness.
The College & University system is close to being obsolete for MOST people. There are still exception in the STEM fields, but It’s just not worth it anymore for most human beings; it’s not a good value, it’s not good preparation for life, it is simply tradition at this point. Problem is the “alternatives” have not become widespread or socially acceptable enough… yet.
Rough period to be a parent with college age kids right now. It’s a waste of money for most but I’m sure it feels like if you don’t spend it you are short changing your child. Culturally, we need to get over sending our kids to these failed institutions.