OK here's the deal. The neurologist, who never seemed very competent yet very disinterested in the past, came through today.
After doing a handful of strength and movement tests with my arm and shoulder, he said my infraspinatus is gone (his words). He says it's likely a complicated mix of things because of the weaknesses at different angles, but that's one he knows for sure.
He said there is a nerve that feeds it that comes at an angle from the shoulder-blade area that is likely being blocked off somewhere. He mentioned some other affected areas, but to honest, I can't accurately remember them all (I have a hard enough time remembering easy names).
He mentioned a possible problem at the brachial plexus or at the neck, and noted atrophy in the back, delt and even in the corner of my pec.
He's ordered an EMG and an MRI (which I should get the papers for within the next ten days). He also set up an appointment with a guy he seems to hold in high regard who does physical rehabilitation, but he didn't want the physical therapist (who he has working on my lower back) to handle this. What is the difference between PT, and a PR? But that's for after the MRI obviously.
I want to thank you guys for your help, as I went in there with better clarity and preparedness than I would have had otherwise, and I believe this helped in the overall diagnosis so far.
JRSFITNESS1, it looks like you hit the nail on the head figuring it to be neurological. Oh yeah, the whole palm up/down thing was a mystery to him too, but I guess it's more like you guys were discussing above...When I turn the palm down, it allows me to flair my elbow out and THEN I can raise my arm. Every single mundane thing I do with my right arm now, has to be with my elbow sticking way out lol!
I feel and look totally retarded. I can't even naturally lift/pull my grocery bags onto the car seats without rolling my elbow out and kinda yanking them up. It's very weird for me , because pulling was my most naturally strongest position and movement. My tendons and muscles seem very well situated for that. So now I'm like mr. uncoordination.
If it is purley neurological, what are the odds of needing surgery vs rehab (in general)?
I will keep this thread updated as I know more, for curiosity sake, and for anyone who has or ever gets a similar condition.
Thanks again guys!