Bitch Slaps Bad for the Sport

To the general public, its a little difficult to present your average MMA fighter as anything other than a street thug. Of course, we in the community know this is blatant stereotyping, and MOST of us try our best to discourage the public from having that image of us as fighters.

One of the good things about the sports of Brazilian Jiujitsu and MMA, is that if there is any kind of beef between competitors, it can all be settled on the mat. That's one of the greatest things about our sport. Tom Brady can light cornerbacks up all day long, but I'm willing to bet Terrence Newman still thinks he can whip Tom Brady's ass. He'll probably never find out for sure. In MMA and BJJ, there's no reason to talk shit unless you are willing to back it up, because someone will call you on it, and you'd either be ready to step up or shut the fuck up.

That being said, here in central Arkansas there is a local gym that often makes claims to being the best BJJ team in Arkansas, led by the 'most sought after BJJ coach in Arkansas.' I don't want to come off as one of those guys that are always looking at the small fish to fry. I mean, my gym is 8,000 square feet. We have a ring, a cage, a weight lifting area, and a shitload of tatami mat space. It's a fighter's paradise, and I could care less about some other team that trains in a hallway.

However, there is a problem. The fearless leaders of this gym constantly make claims to being the two best competitors in the state. This is a blatant lie. Their head coach lists his resume as such:

           Accomplishments Include:

* 2nd Degree Black Belt Weeping Style Jujutsu
* Brown Belt Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
* Professional Fighter
* 2006- #2 RANKED Submission Grappler in the NATION
* Pan American Champion, ADCC Veteran, & WORLD CHAMPION
* Created Arkansas' FIRST program to specialize in Sport Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
* Jory is the Most decorated BJJ Player in Arkansas to date.

Pan American Champion? Probably his best showing. After getting loop choked by Paragon's Lalo Salazar, he won his next two round robin matches by advantage and won the gold medal in the brown belt master's super heavyweight division.

ADCC veteran? Got armbarred in 20 seconds by a guy who got subbed in the next round.

World Champion? Beat one other opponent by advantage at the No-Gi mundials. He entered the brown belt Master's super heavyweight division. The division had two people.

What I'm getting at is that he embellishes the hell out of his resume. He collects walkover medals and lists them as his accomplishments. He doesn't leave well alone, either. He sends MySpace invitations out to our team, asking them to come train. When we have fight shows, he hits the parking lot with fliers for his school. You'd think that this would've been settled in competition long ago, but his team avoids tournaments that our gym participates in, saying that he won't associate with anyone that works with our gym owners because he believes they exhibit a lack of character or some lame crap like that.

I had often asked my instructors why we didn't just go down there and ask to roll, and they told me it wasn't necessary. They told me that he was a delusional small fish and that we should set our sights on bigger and better opponents. For a long time, I agreed.

Finally, this past Friday, I decided that, with no input from my instructors, I would round up a few teammates and we would go over there in peace and ask to do class.

Six of us showed up. Their class that particular day was being held in the upstairs area of a skating rink. When we entered, they saw us from upstairs, and when we walked upstairs, him and his wife were blocking the doorway.

"Leave." she said.

"We're not here to cause trouble." I told her. "We just want to do class. We're all willing to pay a mat fee and sign a waiver, whatever you want us to do, but we come in peace."

"No." she said. "Leave. I have new students here tonight and you can't roll with them. Leave."

"Look," I said. "We're not looking to come in and beat the crap out of all your white belts. I mean, we've got two white belts with us ourselves. We just want to train."

"No." she persisted. "We don't associate with anyone from your school. You can ask your coaches why."

"It doesn't have to be like this." I countered. "We can all work together!"

"No we can't." she said. About this time, her husband, who had been standing behind her, burst through and got in my face.

"Look," he said. "You guys can come back another time when we don't have any students if you want to see who is the best. Or we can go out in the parking lot to find out right now."

I just looked at him. "Dude, the sport exists precisely so we DON'T have to go duke it out in the parking lot."

"This isn't any different than a dojo storm." he said.

"Except it's a skating rink."

This is when he grabbed me by the throat and slapped me across the right side of my face. Before I could even react, one of my training partners who had been standing idly the whole time we were talking jumped in between us, crying "Hey, there's no need for that!" only to be slapped himself.

After swallowing my pride and a bowling ball of anger, I pulled my team away, telling him that we were leaving. We went outside and called the police. They took our statements, took his statement, and told us we should probably just avoid his crazy ass.

Yesterday we tried to press charges against him, but in his version of the story, I barged past his wife to confront him and that is why he slapped me. He felt threatened. Because of this false report, the courts are pretty much unable to do anything about it.

So I turn to here, the focal point of the MMA community. Here we have a guy who claims to be a world-class competitor, and when it comes to backing it up, he would rather slap someone in the face than get on the mat with them. He is a poor representative of the sport and a coward.

I want to let it be known that I am not afraid of this coward. I will gladly face him on the mat or in the cage. He can make all the claims and excuses he wants to, but when it comes down to it he is a sorry excuse for a fighter. He has built this image for himself that he cannot possibly back up, and it has in turn led to him slapping anyone that might challenge him.

This guy is a disgrace to the sport. We try to present ourselves as professional fighters, above the backyard antics of street fighting and bitch slapping. We try to leave it all on the mat.

Most of us do, anyway.

Name names.........

agreed on the FRAT

Cliff notes:

Ashamonkey is a bjj coach that doesn't like the fact that another coach claims to be the best. The other bjj coach has a bunch of records that although true, aren't really that big of a deal. Ashamonkey dojo storms and gets bitch slapped, as does on of his guys. He is offered a street fight but he puts his tail between his legs and leaves. Ashamonkey tries to sue, but the court says no. Ashamonkey for some reason tells us this story, like we're going to do anything about it.

Names dude. As long as you aren't making it all up.

I'm not a coach. I'm a student, a competitor, and an MMA fighter. I'm not some fucking thug that'll go to blows in a skating rink full of children because I'm unable to swallow my pride. There is a preferred way to do things and there are others. I want to promote the sport, not reduce it to a bunch of dumb asses duking it out in a parking lot.

Interesting story.

wait... so you got bitch slapped and then called the cops? my girl did that.... ONCE!!

(j/k)

It sounds like you're an asshole.

And a cocksucker. Oh, wait, we're still talking about me.

It takes a lot to not retaliate after getting hit. That's the first time I've ever done that. I had a moment where everything flashed by, and I could either follow through my natural reaction and start swinging, or I could consider what it would look like, a bunch of us coming to this gym and starting a riot. That would look really good.

Call it what you like, but I challenged this guy, and he could have either said "Yes, let's go." or "No, I don't want to get tapped out in front of my students." and somewhere in between that decision I got slapped in the face.

"Call it what you like, but I challenged this guy, and he could have either said "Yes, let's go." or "No, I don't want to get tapped out in front of my students." and somewhere in between that decision I got slapped in the face."

He did accept your challenge-you got slapped in the face. Listen dude, imo if some guys from a local RIVAL gym came by, i would take offense to it also. You should've listened to your coach Jabrone.

So... this other guy slapped two grown men in the face in the manner in which a pimp would slap a hoe, and so intimidated 6 guys they tuck tailed and ran out. He sounds badass, and would likely teach his students a lot about fighting.

Your coaches sound like shady people, that other gyms in the area won't associate with them. Also, their fighters can't defend against a simple bitch slap.

Or your simply a troll. Who knows anymore?

wait, so you got punked in front of 4 guys, 1 chick AND a group of children?? I'd slit my wrist..

Should have listened to your instructor...life goes on try and forget it ;)

Ashamonkey seems like a good guy. You're all being too hard.

The instructor seems like he has an obvious agenda.

P.s. There are many gyms with World Class instructors that teach out of small gyms. It does not matter if you teach out of a closet, it matters how well you teach.

Go look at Fabio Gurgel's gym in Brazil, he teaches out of a fitness center upstairs

I know the involved parties personally, and all I can say is HAHAHAHAHAHAHA are you fuckin kidding me dude?

I was there, front and center. I wanted to roll with the female they had up there, claiming to be the best in the state despite NEVER grappling another female from Arkansas. Oh well.

On a very serious note, here's a reenactment video we created to help the police on their search for truth.

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Actually, I didn't even really challenge him, per se. I asked if we could have participate in class. He could've collected a mat fee, made us warm up for 30 minutes, and ended class. I didn't go there calling him out. I mean, that's what the undertone was, but I didn't go there proclaiming that I was about to tap him out in front of all of his students.

He repeatedly tells me and my training partners that my instructors are 'hurting us more than they're helping us.' I'm not normally a troublemaker. I don't go dojo storming taekwando schools and causing trouble with every single person I take offense to.

I will, however, challenge anyone who makes claims to being the best and yet hides from competition. Do you think I would have done the same thing had he never made any contact with me or my teammates and not made any claims to being the best in the state? It's disrespectful to every other team in the state that works together to actually put on fights and grappling tournaments. His school is practically the only one in the state that doesn't cooperate with other local schools.

But you're right, it seems petty to bring this to the internet. I was just upset I got slapped and wasn't able to do anything about it due to my more stoic nature. But I want others to know that this guy is a load of crap. He is not Fabio Gurgel and he is not a respectful individual. Perhaps I should have gone about it a different way, but it's not like I'm ever going to see him in competition when he dodges every single event our team competes in.