do chicks actually like fighters/tough guys???

interesting question for everyone here

before i start this is not about famous/rich fighters
because the reality is that if your got money it does not matter
what you do and how you look like
girls will come to you....

getting that out of the way


every dating advice site will always tell you that women
love alfa males and you should act like one

not sure if this is true
because a lot of girls say that when they see a tough/strong guys they find them intimidating and they shell up when that guy tries to talk to them


some reasons for this i think are bullshit hollywood chick flicks
which have often portrayed tough guys are abusive assholes and
wimps having the heart of gold(you can guess what kinda guy writes these scripts)

also i think guys that train
spend most of t their time in the company of males and may not be great at talking to chicks....they spend a lot time in fight gyms which are like 90 percent guys


anyways what do you guys think??
just an interesting question i have know a lot of fighters
who struggle to get women for various reasons

Trashy porn type bitches do.

They definitely do. Women like men with big strong arms

What women want depends on the stage of their life and what they want the man for. 

Generally, the traits they look for falls into these categories:strong genetics, status, access to resources, is a good provider. The importance of each, once again, depends on the situation.

Being a strong “alpha male” ticks at least one of those boxes and is an indicator of another. That’s going to attract more than a few females. 

yes, they often do, but are they willing to 'except' their fighter lifestyles?

Women generally want security in 1 of 3 ways

Financial - A romance with no finance, is a got damn nuisance.

Physical - strong, confident protector. Daddy issue come into play here.

Emotional - Be her rock. She just wants to be herself and be with the one who allows her to do so.

In many cases they don't even know this. Armed with this information, a man can then present himself in a manner to highlight 1 or and number of the 3. The woman will notice.

As stated above, this is heavily dependent on what stage of her life she's in. Age/maturity play huge rolls. Yes there is a portion of the women pool that are into fighter/types.

not any good ones usually.

CRETARD - They definitely do. Women like men with big strong arms

This. It's exactly why women don't like me.  I'M A PUSSY ! 

They, like everyone want to feel secure

Not since the  90's bro

chicks are into jiujitsu guys nowadays. everyone looks tough in the gi

In my case I've learned not to even mention my involvement in MMA most of the girls that I've dated thought that it was quite strange that I would participate in such a violent sport doesn't match with my personality

SinCityHustler - Women generally want security in 1 of 3 ways

Financial - A romance with no finance, is a got damn nuisance.

Physical - strong, confident protector. Daddy issue come into play here.

Emotional - Be her rock. She just wants to be herself and be with the one who allows her to do so.

In many cases they don't even know this. Armed with this information, a man can then present himself in a manner to highlight 1 or and number of the 3. The woman will notice.

As stated above, this is heavily dependent on what stage of her life she's in. Age/maturity play huge rolls. Yes there is a portion of the women pool that are into fighter/types.

SCH dropping the wisdom as per usual!

They do until I show them a no gi BJJ match then not so much. 

 

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Yes! Tough guys/fighters with money.

 Nope.  Learn how to play guitar.  It's not too late.

My girlfriend told me she was intimidated by me when we first met but then she got to know me and realized I was a big softy 

To understand women and attraction, an important thing that needs to be understood is that they use the word "attractive" in multiple ways, whereas when men say a woman is attractive, we almost universally mean "sexually" attractive (I believe this confusion has caused alot of misunderstandings in discussions of this nature).  When it comes to understanding what women are attracted to, you need to look at what women - from an evolutionary standpoint - need from men  The first is genetic material (See Genghis Khan's thoughts on pulling out).  The second, manifests itself in many ways, but I'll use the umbrella descriptor of "physical/material security".  The former of these needs is what drives "sexual" attraction, and the latter drives "relationship" attraction.

From the standpoint of purely sexual attraction, they like men who demonstrate masculine physicality and health.  Masculine physicality can be expressed in two ways: 1) A man's capacity for physical work, and 2) a man's capacity for violence, and these two capacities overlap quite a bit (I'll give the psychological advantage to the violence camp though).  Therefore, if a man's physical presence if found intimidating, you can rest assured that she finds you sexually attractive to some extent (by and large, bigger is better, up to a point).

When it comes to "relationship" attraction, this really just boils down to a guy being someone that will "stick around", ensuring her offspring and the offspring of her childern.  This includes physical protection to a degree (pregnant women don't jiu-jitsu very well), as well as material protection (providing food, building shelter, etc).

Now, getting back to the figther/tough guy archetype; in short, women will find him sexually attractive, ALWAYS, at any age, what changes is the importance of sex vs. long-term commitment as a woman ages.  When you think about this, it makes sense, as a woman gets older, her ability to compete with younger women diminishes.  On top of that, an older woman is more likely to have children than a younger woman, whom will require parental investment.  So when you hear a woman say that she use to be attracted to a type of guy and that her tastes have changed, what she really means is that her priorities have changed.

If girls you are meeting are saying that they aren't interested in a guy that they find physically intimidating, they're probably in "relationship hunting mode" and don't want to be smashed-and-dashed (instinctively, at any age, women fear this to an extent).  An important detail to keep in mind with regard to the modern dating scene is that there are many women on "the pill", which causes her body to think they're pregnant. Therefore, the ones on the pill are more likely to seek out the "provider" type guy vs. the tough guy archetype.  A quick google search will allow you to see many stories where a woman's attraction to her husband completely changed once she got off the pill when they were trying to start a family.

Long-winded response I know, just wanted to contribute.  Hope this helped.

 

 

boxingman - interesting question for everyone here

before i start this is not about famous/rich fighters
because the reality is that if your got money it does not matter
what you do and how you look like
girls will come to you....

getting that out of the way


every dating advice site will always tell you that women
love alfa males and you should act like one

not sure if this is true
because a lot of girls say that when they see a tough/strong guys they find them intimidating and they shell up when that guy tries to talk to them


some reasons for this i think are bullshit hollywood chick flicks
which have often portrayed tough guys are abusive assholes and
wimps having the heart of gold(you can guess what kinda guy writes these scripts)

also i think guys that train
spend most of t their time in the company of males and may not be great at talking to chicks....they spend a lot time in fight gyms which are like 90 percent guys


anyways what do you guys think??
just an interesting question i have know a lot of fighters
who struggle to get women for various reasons

Also, I've noticed the issues with guys that train and dating as well.  In a world where everyone is YOLOing and delaying maturity/adulthood, guys that train and exercise discipline in their day-to-day lives are going to have less in common with the mainstream of society, where most people (esp. women) live.  They're going to have less interest in just "hanging out" and may see it as a waste of their time and/or body (if drinking/eating/drugs are involved).  This will hurt them from a "quantity of options" standpoint.  However, the silver lining to this observation is that i've noticed the quality of women (not just looks, but especially in personality) that guys that train get, is typically higher.  And this appeals to them since for their lifestyle it's better to have a stable, consistent, relatively drama-free woman than to go out exerting time and effort chasing mentally draining women.

Nope, they don't.

My long time GF cheated on me with one, then another fighter and told me BOTH times that it was HUGE mistake.

She says, "I don't even know what I was thinking backthen".